Monday, April 30, 2007

puzzling thoughts

i came across an article that said a couple of many years split for some issue that could have been resolved this made me think of nature of such relationships that couldn't sustain the strains that life put on us....since reading the article i have been puzzling over an hypothetical situation...and even after a lot of musings..i cant seem to take it out of my mind...so i thought id just put it up on my blog and let my blogger friends help me resolve my puzzle

a girl meets a boy...they become good friends...then they fall in love...their life is almost perfect...he and she is both compatible on every ground....months turned into years and it was time for them to take the next step...since till now almost both their families were accepting towards their relationship...there wasn't a hitch,but then problems seem to rise....the guy turned out to be an escapist of sorts...he dint aspire to live a better life,which most of his peers strove for and got...maybe he thought that for him his being in love meant more than earning well....he talks about this to his girl...she says...you are able in every way,when you can achieve more why settle for less..life doesn't thrive on love,one needs a good living too...this angered the guy...he started thinking that she was just using him..in his anger he talks about her background..which may not have been totally spotless but not undignified too...and till then it never posed a problem....but then now it seemed like an unforgivable sin...till that day the girl didnt even know that the guy felt that way about her...here begins their problems...should they break off while there is still time....or should they be together compromising their lives just for old times sake...

now a few question arises...and i hope you guys help me revolve it....

*was the girl wrong is wanting a proper life for herself?[because there was scope it wasn't as if there was no other way but to live life the contrined way...]

*would a father give his daughter away to a well educated guy but with peanuts for salary...and subject his daughter to hardships in life...

*would the girl be able to bring the guy of her choice to her father,knowing well he cannot keep her happy and that life could be full of hardship

*will love sustain all???

*what will the guy do in a case like this,when he can strive for a better life but he wont for some trivial reason?

*is the girl just really using him?

*was the guy right to hurt the girl by bringing up her background???

8 comments:

Rajeev said...

i feel that there is absolutely nothin wrong from the girl's side :)

Peace & Love
JeeVY

Lisa Francisco said...

nothing is wrong from the girl's point of view...trully that is my belief...i don't think they should be together for old times sake but if they trully value the relationship then they should try to work it out...no relationship is perfect...

lisa

Shamash said...

The girl plays a large part in every decision and it is but expected that the boy will not only pay heed to them but will and try incorporate those suggestions

From a practical wordly point of view it is not possible that love will sustain all, you do need moolah... but again thats not all.. if the guy is well educated but poor that dusnt mean its a death knell to this relationship rather with the girls help this guy may actually start doing better but as in the sitiuation outlined is this boy even after getting good advice decides to disregard.. nothing can be done about it..

Did i make sense?

Srin said...

Dont bother with this nonsense, just go read a good book.

Srin said...

The guy is obviously a wastrel. He's using the girl as an excuse to do nothing and sit on his behind all day. All this hoohaa about love is crap. I'm thinking of this "love is all we need" shit, and I'm thinking, a> that looking at love as a basically sexual concept (ie, lover type love as opposed to parent-sibling types love, lets not even use the word 'platonic' here)is flawed. So ok, I love my parents, they love me too, so ok, baba decides to stay at home and not go to work, is that going to work? NOPE. Ok so basically, just read a good book. I recomment 'the great gatsby' by f.scott fitzgerald. It's a love story, too.

=)

Smartalec said...

now the guy didn't have to bring up the girl's background! that surely ruined everything! it's a "things can never be the same again" kinda scenario!
anyway the problem here is that the guy is insecure... nothing wrong on the girl's part! and the way it took him just a moment to introduce a uncalled for hitch in the relationship of so many years just goes to show that!
i feel it'll be difficult living with such a guy! but then, people do believe in giving others another chance! it might work out, it might not... but the event which got all this thought process in motion will always be at the back of the couple's minds...
boy! this post sure got me thinking!

Cin said...

if the girl has so many questions and unresolved feelings, she already knows the answer she is looking for

Priyanka Sarkar said...

I agree with cin!!
i think th very fact that the girl is questioning on the relationship is reason enuf to get her a decision!!
if the 2 ppl in question differ in a basic principle of life as this,it might be difficult to stick on forever....but again it depends on what their intesity of "love" is.....

did i manage to confuse u more??:D