Friday, August 01, 2008

i wonder if guys really appreciate and respect women. people say beauty lies within, one must look beyond physical beauty of a girl to know the real her. it is not just their inner qualities they should admire but also that they do what they are supposed to do, as prescribed by the society to look presentable no matter what.
have you [the guys] every wondered how you would feel if molten wax is poured all over your arms, feet, underarms and ahem ahem...special places; and then the hair being painfully yanked out?? well try it out sometime. i who has limited knowledge about this bikini wax or Brazilian bikini wax, heard its tremendously painful but why do we do it? because you guys need a fuzz free experience. how i hate you uncivilized creatures, who think its ok to have hair all over but their girl should be groomed and should look presentable [pretty] 24* 7 ... hmmph





you rather date the "babe" than the girl next door

you find the babe hot and interesting but you would never appreciate the girl next door for her warmth and simplicity. and often would tag her as 'boring' and 'not interesting enough'.

well it does take a lot from the girl to be the babe just so that people find her desirable. it is not easy for girls from both category to be the object of fancy and take the risk of being leached at. whether you wear a micro mini or a salwar guys have a way of mentally undressing you.





guys harp on how they work their ass off in office. most women do too despite doing through a lot of physical hardships. ever wondered how she does it??

PMS are such bother really but yet we manage fine and carry on our daily life despite having terrible body ache, irritable mood or in some drastic case nausea. we don't even get to take time off, or we get to hear from mommies and grannies, women before you have endured it from centuries, its not a big deal now get it done and over with, without a fuss. and if this wasn't enough there are loads of superstitions and do's and don't s during this time. and in some households they are being treated as an outcast during the time. no trips to the "puja place'" no touching the kitchen or wandering anywhere near it. what the dunderheads don't realize that is a natural phenomena so that we can someday reproduce our kids and fulfill the so called circle of life.



every guy wants a virgin wife. why is this such a huge emphasis on virginity? is it the purity of the body or the mind that the guy seeks??? and why is it an issue when consenting adults want to indulge themselves. does the guy ever have to answer if he is a virgin or not? then why only the girl?

moreover have you ever wondered how much it hurts a girl when she looses her virginity?or appreciate that she thinks you are that important that she can trust herself with you?


have you guys ever wondered just how complicated and how traumatic childbirth can be? just imagine your pubic area being cut wide out and a life size baby trying to push its way through a tiny hole to enter the world. the mother gives in the last ounce of energy, muscles clenching and fibers tearing to make way for the baby to make its presence felt. and then the umbilical chord that connects that baby is snipped off. and her pain and trauma doesn't end here. she is sewn back into place and stinging antiseptic is poured generously on sections of her which has only just recovered from child birth. and if this wasn't enough she is made to walk within a day or two of her delivery so as to make her return to normal life. then within 7 days she has to learn how to incorporate the child into her life, now she is not important but her child and her needs are. do take time out and read this

so next time a guy makes gender remarks think again!! we may not be competent in every field like you, we may not understand gadgets or play sports but we do what only we can. so next time try and appreciate and respect a lady for what she is before generalizing her. both men and women are like the ying yang, till the balance is maintained, harmony reigns but the moment one looks to assume more prominence and state their superiority the balance is lost forever.

P.S- i don't intend to put down guys in any which way, but, this post is for those guys who happily take a dig at women for sheer pleasure. this is to tell them women are people you would rather not mess with. im terribly sorry for writing so explicitly.

27 comments:

Jorge said...

Hola amigo: quería invitarte que visites el blog que estoy realizando con mis alumnos de segundo año de la secundaria sobre LA DISCRIMINACIÓN.
http://nodiscrimine.blogspot.com
Tema arduo e interesante.
Seguro será de tu agrado.
Te invitamos que leas lo que gustes de él y hagas una opinión sobre el mismo.
Tu aporte será valioso.
Un abrazo desde la Argentina.

phoenix said...

@jerge

will surely check ur blog on discrimination :)

thanks for visiting me

Sunshine gal said...

Wat???U cud actually mk out wat dis guy was tryin 2 tel u in his completely out of dis world language????
Watevr...nt my concern...
It was truly a very moving post..i hd to comment back.U have raised many important issues here-dere r loads of things dat guys tk 4 granted....Kudos 4 giving them a different perspective!!!!
A bold post indeed...

Aneesh said...

Good post, it's nice that you put a postscript at the end LOL
'coz not all guys are like that and to be honest, I prefer the neighbor girl than an ultra modern babe :)

[-V-] said...

i agree with aneesh.
whatever you have written is so right and 90% males are like that.

anyways i came to wish happy friendship day to you..

cheers

di.di said...

ok this is slightly off topix but still..... my cousin says brazalian waxing becomes less painful over time...isit true.. nearby my office, there’s this really nice saloon which does chocolate Brazilian wax! Whatever that is... hahhahah

It’s not that I’m not willing to suffer for beauty, but I just couldnt gather my guts yet... if I do this, not for other people, but for myself...

phoenix said...

@ipsy
i got it translated it sweetheart :)

i knew you'd like it...its our kind of a thing na??????


@aneesh
i know for a fact NOT every guy is like that, among them my bf features too :) im not biased

@viyanak
happy friendships day to you too :)

@di.di
hey when you get it done let me know...id be curious....i dont know if i ll ever do it

Abhishek Khanna said...

hehe.. u seem to be really pissed off gal!

did someone made comments abt the female community?

Zubin said...

Whoa...what kind of guys have you been meeting..!!

Whatever you said is kinda true but the solution is simple..don't do things for such guys..!!
Why would you do something that's against your belief...Stand firm..!

About the virginity part...it depends on individuals..most just prefer to be on the same LEVEL..!!

One more thing...Its not just the men's fault... most of the girls do these things to attract guys...Why would you girls wear a lip gloss and mascara to work..?
Nose jobs..??Silicon..? I don't think many guys appreciate that...but girls would still do these things...

Generalizing things is not a smart thing either...so yes not all girls are like that..and not all guys are like that either..
Whats the fuss then..?

That's a nice analogy btw...ying yang one...

Stumbled..!! :)

and you are blogrolled... :)

Zubin said...

P.S: this song on your blog...is just too lovely..!

Vinz aka Vinu aka Vinayak said...

@phoenix,

first of all i want to pass a nice smile which can lessen your anger..which can soothe your mind..

Girl, wonderful post..no words to put an argue with u...because what u had spelt out is something,many a time i had thought of writing.. bt i am confused..

before putting up my points let me tell i am not supporting the 'guys' all alone blindly..Just for a healthy discussion..

1. what makes girls do such waxing, in ur words
"have you [the guys] every wondered how you would feel if molten wax is poured all over your arms, feet, underarms and ahem ahem...special places;"

Maybe to catch attention..yeah, i agree guys do ogle girls, but dont u think some part is provocated by themselves..waxing themselves, wearing very provocating dresses,

tell me wts the need of waxing, wearing see through t'shirts, padded Bra's, heavy laced Bra's on thin tight t'shirts showing all their curves...wearing low waste jeans and cargos flaunting panty lines, wearing waist line t's and short shirts making a display of flat stomach's and navels...

dont u think these things are taken for granted by guys who thinks they are being invited..!!

Anyways, i can write on and on...its very subjective..but yeah, i do abhor rapes..bloody i feel like hanging them with their genitals tied up and whipping them to death..

And regarding the 'virgin wife' thing.. Dont u think God was partial in this matter.. he didnt leave any chance to let know the world whether they(guys) are virgin or not..!! whereas the girls were sealed with hymen..yeah, he made a mistake over there of which many guys are taking undue advantages..!!

abt the PMS stuff and delivery..
whoa lady, i do respect this..normally girls are considered as sensitive..but the strength they carry are under estimated.. whenever i see a woman with a protruding belly(pregnant one..!) i love watching them..i admire them..cant explain, maybe i will write about it sometime..!!and PMS..again god is partial to guys,i guess..

Cheers!!

phoenix said...

@vinayak
let me tell you im not angry :) but here is what i feel-

what is there to wax?u need to be a girl and have elder female folk around to know.it is expected that a girl be well grommed and fuzz free.show me one honest guy who says he will be with a girl not groomed?there maybe be some,but thats a minority.
we personally would not have done it if we hd a choice,at least i wouldn't but we are seasoned to believe that it is something that we should do. and tell me what is wrong to feel the need to be presentable.

1 more thing,are girls objects of desire only?are we a comodity? why then what we wear [whether bikini or saree]are we stared at?guys wear low waist jeans too,their undies show too.they pee on the road in full view of girls and they scratch their crotch all the time,isnt that obscene??? we girls are not known to be perpetrators of rape or molestation because by nature we cant if we could then these actions of the guys could have been subject to provocation too.

like gusy have insecurities of the penis size i guess some girls want fuller breasts hence the need for push-up bras. im sure you will agree on a girl who can carry of her body well or has a figure to flaunt can reval her navel and wear low waist stuff...

everyone has the liberty to wear what they want, specially guys, they wear shorts to markets and shops, they wear such tight fitting jeans that the bulge in their jeans show, now do we call that provocation or what?
we dont because its a partiarcal society where a woman should be suppressed and she becomes the object of desire, so what we flaunt may seem like provocation to many but in actuality it may not be an invitation at all, it is the feudal lord mindset of the guys that comprehend liberality as an invitation for obscenity. think about it

phoenix said...

@zubin

"One more thing...Its not just the men's fault... most of the girls do these things to attract guys...Why would you girls wear a lip gloss and mascara to work..?
Nose jobs..??Silicon..? I don't think many guys appreciate that...but girls would still do these things..."

do you think girls groom themselves just to attract guys? can they do it because they want to? doesnt a girls opinion to do what she wants matter?

granted girls do nose jobs and sillicon implants.... dont guys really want girls with ample breasts?maybe you dont...but many salivate on that...

and trust me its not only the girls.... guys go in for male breast reduction,hair weaving,problems with impotency is dealt with too, etc... why do they do it?do they want to attract girls? or want to groom themselves??

from a girls perspective,id be honest to say,yes it would matter if the guy didnt perform in bed or if he is bald.... look to an entent everyone would want to look presentable.... whats wrong in that?

but its wrong to comprehend grooming oneself [is a personal choice] as a way to lure people...


let me know what you feel?

Zubin said...

Hey..

hmmm...yes girls get groomed because they want to...!! but why complain then..?

*what is there to wax?u need to be a girl and have elder female folk around to know.show me one honest guy who says he will be with a girl not groomed?*

So blame those elder females then, they are females they should understand..! Also..you are contradicting yourself..you are saying that girls groom themselves not because they want to attract guys...why do ask for honest guys who don't demand well groomed girls then..?? :P

Also do you see guys complaining about having to groom themselves...?
Getting impotency treated..is not a grooming procedure..its a medical treatment..and many women get this treatment too..:)
And how many girls do you know who like guys with male breasts...?? :D

Low Waists...?..G-strings..??presentable..? Comm'on..!


My point is..that if girls don't do these things for guys but for themselves..why would they blame guys for the pain that comes with these procedures...!!

People who make gender remarks are present on both sides of the Yin-Yang...

The solution is to have more people like us...Lets take it as a challenge..You improve girls we will improve guys..Its easier to convey the people on the same side..!! :p

Vinz aka Vinu aka Vinayak said...

@phoenixx

>>what is there to wax?u need to be a girl and have elder female folk around to know.it is expected that a girl be well grommed and fuzz free.show me one honest guy who says he will be with a girl not groomed?there maybe be some,but thats a minority.

maybe...i am not entering that sphere..but so far, as per my experiance, from the female fraternity i know, which includes my sisters, my close friends, they dnt have any pressure from the elderly people..atleast not in a way which includes waxing and such stuff..yeah, maintaining oneself is good..You have to be presentable..in that case, waxing alone is not a solution..and if tht also y not u guys decide it urself...

>>we personally would not have done it if we hd a choice,at least i wouldn't but we are seasoned to believe that it is something that we should do.

exactly,tht is wt i want to say..u r seasoned to believe that..trust me, u can come out of that mould..and i believe ntg much will change if u can..!!

>>and tell me what is
wrong to feel the need to be presentable.

nothing is wrong..infact everyone love to be presentable...


>>1 more thing,are girls objects of desire only?are we a comodity? why then what we wear [whether bikini or saree]are we stared at?guys wear low waist jeans too,their undies show too.they pee on the road in full view of girls and they scratch their crotch all the time,isnt that obscene???

Hey, i was never shielding those guys acts.. i myself had felt many a times to smack those take a leak here and there...low waists jeans can be trendy..i only wanted to highlight that there is a fine line of descency..for both genders....thts all..

>>we girls are not known to be perpetrators of rape or molestation because by nature we cant if we could then these actions of the guys could have been subject to provocation too.

agreed..anatomically ur creed are not moulded in that way..and that is from where men take undue advantages..i feel sorry for that..only option is instilling the respect for females in the coming generations, atleast..

>>like gusy have insecurities of the penis size i guess some girls want fuller breasts hence the need for push-up bras. im sure you will agree on a girl who can carry of her body well or has a figure to flaunt can reval her navel and wear low waist stuff...

>>everyone has the liberty to wear what they want, specially guys, they wear shorts to markets and shops, they wear such tight fitting jeans that the bulge in their jeans show, now do we call that provocation or what?

:) wt to say, phoenix..i already answered..everywhere ther is a fine line..we just need to maintain that..be it females or males..my opinions were not biased..

>>we dont because its a partiarcal society where a woman should be suppressed and she becomes the object of desire, so what we flaunt may seem like provocation to many but in actuality it may not be an invitation at all, it is the feudal lord mindset of the guys that comprehend liberality as an invitation for obscenity. think about it

:) i concord with u girl.. bt i meant those all are also some factors for provocation... let me ask you, what is the need of wearing see through dressess whn u already know the 'feudal mindset of men that comprehend liberality as an invitation for obscenity'..understand one thing, this whole world is of the same attitude...u cant change that..so my point was to avoid such instances by maximum...and i assure you, i will make my creed aware about these and makethem respect woman more...

:)

anyways can write more and more..but only we talking wont change this world..try writing more and more on ur blogs...!!create a wave..!!

Vinz aka Vinu aka Vinayak said...

hey phoenix,

last but not least, i just want to say, all the guys dont salivate on boobs...

i can bet u..atleast,i feel, there are guys for whom those things are not mandatory,much...

trust me..there are lots of guys like that, if not many..!!

:)

Vinz aka Vinu aka Vinayak said...

and wt i wnted to convey thru my blog is also evident i guess...my anger against those guys who actually think women as just a piece of flesh...thats pathetic..

meanwhile, i feel girls too have to be careful...we cant controll the whole set of miscreants..and hell, the male brain is designed like that..those who are not educated are getting succumbed to those carnal desires..and bad fate, its always women who are the sufferers..!!

[-V-] said...

yaar yahaan to logo ne tabahi macha rakhi hai...

anyways here's what i think...

women are are human beings too.respect them guys...not only you mom and sisters but respect the one standing on bus-stop..in the bus..walking on the roads...i know most of us are going to say..if something is beautiful you goyya see it..

hmmm ..well if u admire something look do not like an greedy eagle looking at prey.
if u just put in that little effort thinking of so many girls about us may change...be polite and plzz behave.

and yaar yeh batein chodo ...if a girl wants to wear low-waist jeans,short skirts whatever..then that's her decision ..noone forcing her to.

rest to bas society hi aisi hai kya kahein.Iss society ko maine to banaya nai... it been a process going on for decades..so leave it and chill maro ppl.

cheers peace peace
merepe attack mat kerna koi ab yaar...main to bas aisi hi visit ker raha tha aur rah nai gaya...

tc

phoenix said...

@zubin and vinayak

no blog war here please.... i understand and accept your points..... :) ok? wow im getting real popular here lol!


@zubin
its a great idea about converting the people of same gender.....


btw i told that girls groom themselves because they want to and they complain because what the guys see beautiful is because the girls go through so much pain and ordeal to look good got me??? its just a point.... i wasnt intending on a gender war here just stating a fact.


@[-v-]

:D my dear friend you are so right..we are fighting here for nothing :)


@vinayak
>>what is the need of wearing see through dressess whn u already know the 'feudal mindset of men that comprehend liberality as an invitation for obscenity'..understand one thing, this whole world is of the same attitude...u cant change that..so my point was to avoid such instances by maximum<<

why worry about the feudal attitude of men...why not create a new wave..why not tell the world that old times are gone..and now is the time to treat everyone,women children and men equally....

just because there is a set of mindset..we cant always live to abide by it specially since we know its not correct...why not try and reform it even if we donot succeed...

starry nights said...

Well..Sorry 2 interrupt 2 guys.Semms lik we r havin quite a heated debate ovr here.As far i knw personally bein a guy :)..all guys prefer a less fuzzy experience.We all admire waxed,modern women.We may say, dat we prefer girl next door...bt we will always fantasize about Katrina or Bipasha in bed.or at most stare at beautiful ladies in the nearby shoppin mall.

Lets face it guys..We do lik waxed,modern women..but we r big hypocrites 2 admit dat.

Raka said...

@samik
:P true true

im proud of you my boy friend :D

-phoenix

Zubin said...

*no blog war here please*

comm'on I was expecting a rumble..!! lol.. :p

*btw i told that girls groom themselves because they want to and they complain because what the guys see beautiful is because the girls go through so much pain and ordeal to look good got me???*

I know. I got that point across my head...but what I am saying is that according to you..they do that grooming for themselves..they look good for themselves...right..?
That means they bear that pain for themselves...right..?? Then why blame the guys..!! :p

But...they have all rights to bash a guy if they HAVE to do it for them.. :)

Apart from that I agree with everything else that you are saying.. :)

P.S: So much about grooming and all..Whatever happened to natural beauty..? :D

phoenix said...

@zubin
i never blamed the guy... i just said that guys never appreciate what goes behind looking beautiful yaar.... its ok to oogle at a girl but to realize and appreciate her beauty is important too

Zubin said...

Now thats true... :)

But not all guys are like that.. :)

vanilla sky said...

your writings were elaborate but in your face..

I'll try 2 be truthful said...

had been waiting for such a post for a very long time now. recently did my eyebrows & by god !! was feeling like running away from there ! & u know about another sick guy thing? they wanna date the hot babe but marry a 'gharelu' girl , atleast that's what most o' the roadies contestants say -- i"ll have sex with my gf , but will marry a virgin!! can you find a more redundant sentence?????

the silent observer said...

Virginity is bogus. I completely agree with you, Raka. No one ever asks a man whwther he is a virgin or not. Sex is an experience which shud not be binding. If people want to hav it, they hav the liberty to and if they don't want hav it,.it's their personal choice. No one should ever be forced to. Regarding dresses and waxing, WHY DO GUYS CONSIDER THAT WHATEVER A GIRL DOES IS TO PLEASE THEM?????? I mean, WHO ARE THEY???? Why do they think they are so important to a girl???? Well, THEY ARE NOT. And the sooner they get, the better for them. Good Piece, Raka. Keep it up.