Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Role of intimacy in a relationship
i was wondering about intimacy in a relationship. I'm c'mon we are are adults and lets not be hypocritical here. my point here is to determine the role that intimacy plays in a relationship and just what makes us feel comfortable enough to be intimate with the other person; the person can be a boy friend/girl friend,wife or even live in partners.
I'm a prude in matters of intimacy but then i do realize that hugging or holding hands or even kissing or making love is an extension of the feelings that we harbour. but there is as much as i would display. im very conservative when it comes to PDA. intimacy is a very personal thing and should be kept within control when in public, holding hands is fine or an occasional hugging or a brief kiss is pretty acceptable too; but going overboard with PDA is just so gross. the other day i was a mall and a couple walked by. the man seemed the possessive kind, who kept on pulling the girl close and hugged her to him or delivered a kiss every now and then, while the girl was visibly uncomfortable. for bystanders like us it was very embarrassing to see such behaviour.
they say, human touch is very important in a relationship.so of course intimacy plays an important part in it. personally making love is something id like to explore only after my vows are exchanged. however I'm not averse to those who choose to consummate their love. for me i need to trust and respect my husband to give my body and soul up to the person. you will ask me, why, isn't love important while making love? id say, other than love marriages most are arranged there love happens later. in either way intimacy is a natural course to follow in love or relationship.
so what is your take on the role of intimacy in a relationship? and just where to draw the line with PDA.