Wednesday, November 05, 2008

10 rules to be a lady!

I had written on 10 rules to be a perfect gentleman before. i somehow feel that is very unfair on the men to have things written about them and not ladies. so on Vinayak's suggestion here are a few habits and etiquette's that i think a young lady should have, with respect to her position in the society and to the guy she is dating.

1. when a man takes you out, then do offer to pay; if he refuses the offer then let it be. don't assume that the guy should pay each time you people decide to go out. but if the guy insists on paying then let him, don't be pushy, because you may just end up insulting him.

2. remember past is past. everyone has a past. don't bring up your past relationships unless you are asked to, never draw comparisons between the guy you are dating and the guy you had dated. and don't judge the person with the past he has had. remember you are his present and maybe tomorrow.

3. while it is perfectly normal to want to know about the guy you are dating, his whereabouts. but snoop around, suspecting his every move. give him his space too.

4. before you had entered his life, he had a different lifestyle and friends. respect that, don't demand or expect the guy to give up on all his friends to prove to you that he cares. it is unfair on him to give them up, insist that he balance both so as not to neglect one for the other.

5.guys have certain guy things. they would once in awhile want to booze or smoke. they may not be exactly understandable to us girls but to guys however harmful or bad, it is essential for them; so let them do what they want once in awhile.

6.while it is ok to what the best for your guy, to ensure he is going the right thing.don't go overboard with the criticism.

7. its nice to mutter i love yous every now and then to spark the romance, but it is really irritating if you demand that your guy repeats after each and every time you speak. consider that he may not be able to do so, due the people around him or the ambiance he is in at the moment.

8. while its ok to be independent, it is also the duty of the girl to put in an extra bit to make sure the relationship runs smooth, so one must give in once is awhile, only if the guy is truly right. ego issues on who is running the relationship or marriages is strongly advised against.

9. guys have a bad memory. so while it is good to expect them to remember birthdays and anniversaries. don't go overboard remembering, first making out session-anniversary, first holding hand anniversary, your dogs- birthday and so on. it can be highly irritating.

10. while its great to look absolutely gorgeous on your dates. don't forget your brains home when you are out. which means, pay attention to what the guys is saying, strike up a conversation it is as much his responsibility to make the dates special as it is yours, don't be shy and uptight. remember guys appreciate beauty with brains, and girls who know how to be a good friend, for them to be potential girlfriends. don't play hard to get for too long.

when i began the post i was so sure i wouldn't have much to write because i dint think there was much to criticize the girls. but i was wrong :P there are things that girls need to know. :) let me know if i was sordid, or if i managed to be impartial while writing this.

33 comments:

Hemanth Potluri said...

i read it out but not in a mood to comment perfectly will come back to do it :)..

urs..hemu..

•♥•♥[V]♥•♥• said...

high fives for the post...
thought i have a good memory...
i never forget b'days ;D

take care dear

Vinz aka Vinu said...

@raka,

:)
that was a good sequel to your previous post..and u did justice to the post being impartial..

well done..!!

:)

Buzzz said...

pretty interesting ;)

Priya Joyce said...

I quite agree to all except the first one as I read in one magazine that If a gal offers to pay half the bill..the male ego comes into the picture...hmmm In that case wat wud u say..

Phoenix said...

@hemanth
sure take your time..come back and comment

Phoenix said...

@vickey
u'll make a girl really happy.

Phoenix said...

@vinu
:) thank god! i thought i wouldn't be able jto be impartial

Phoenix said...

@buzz
well thank you :)

Phoenix said...

@pj
see the thing is
yea i agree that it can hurt the male ego

:) but the point i was making is, OFFER to pay and if he refuses don't push him, just give in. moreover nowadays girls are fiercely independent they find it insulting if they are not allowed to pay in that case they go dutch :)

Harshita said...

Reminds me of 'How to lose a guy in 10 days?"...

I loved the post...and I can easily relate to it.

:)

HOBO said...

guys have a bad memory.
ha ha ..oooo huuu, bhangra pa le..
But where is that samajhdar woman ?
koi haiiiiiiiii
;)

dilmainhainpyar said...

hmmm.....good one..that is all what i can say.....

i think it is not as good as the previous one abt the men.....its only my personnel opinion.....

in the MEN's post you have defined the greatness of a dad, bro, frnd, husband etc... but here you told only abt how to be a good girlfrnd.....think abt it....its just an opinion....

Mads said...

loved the post....

its true...guys forget birthdays n anniversaries..we gotta live wid that :(
and let the guys do their guy things once in a while :P
yes yes. dont force him to mutter i love u as frequently as we do!

*nods nods nods!!*
p.s. the guys wala post was better than this... :)

Chriz said...

awesome..
brilliant..
your guy is lucky

Trevor Penn said...

Do such lady like women still exist? They're hard to find. I guess they're all taken then. :)

Sakshi said...

i second you on all that.

S.

•♥•♥[V]♥•♥• said...

i am seriously considering -- a bachelor for life. :)

Ria said...

nice post dear!!and u did manage to give an impartial view...Kudos to u for doin tht.

Princess said...

good ones to think abt

Phoenix said...

@harshita
lol! my god! am i now a tablois journo or what? :P

Phoenix said...

@hobo
so u accept?:)

Phoenix said...

@yamini
i ll try and be good the next time :)

Phoenix said...

@mads
i so agree :P i thoughts points were brilliant n id get some booker or something :P lol!

Phoenix said...

@chris
yeah that he is but care to elaborate why?id really like you to tell me :)

Phoenix said...

@trevor
i felt the same when i wrote the post on men.

Phoenix said...

@sakshi
:)

Phoenix said...

@vickey
cmon then all girls would say the same reading the post on men! its not fir! coward maidan chod ke jaa rahey ho..

Phoenix said...

@ria
now im beaming :D

Phoenix said...

@princess
:)

•♥•♥[V]♥•♥• said...

hey it's not that girl..
i can't forget her..so i don't want to ruin anyone's life.
Me and my neverland
there are some things i have to achieve till i am 40.
after that a life of an adventure traveler :)

Aqua gurl said...

cool....btw raka love the song playing!!!

Keshi said...

very useful tips for a very unlady-like chick like me LOL! tnxx hun!


Keshi.