Sunday, November 09, 2008

Aj Kal Ke Bacche

With me teaching kids i have a fair idea of "aj kal ke bacchey" thankfully i have good kids as children but they do betray what the general trend is among kids.and it is more shocking than pleasant. what kind of environment we give our kids is our choice, and sometimes we dont have choices.....and nothing can more sad than that.

My neice, roshni,age:7,class:2

she is crazy about some dumb cartoons like ben 10 or something.it took me ages to give it a search google, to be more knowledgeable to about such things. i mean really what cartoons do these kids see? i used to watch flinstones,tom and jerry, yogi bear, scooby dooby doo etc and i used to find them really fun, they were educative and really non-violent. but somehow i feel kids today, watch much harsher and violent cartoons.there is no portrayal of emotions in any of it, there is a sense of doing something for humanity but is that enough?if the kids are shown violence by their favorites character, wont it impact on the kids?


Student,kalpok,age:8,class 3

Stays in a creche while his mom is away at work. dad works in mumbai, far away from home. he is an unique example of an ideal child.he does things without being told, almost too diligent to be true.

student,reesha,age:11,class:6

Good in studies,with a working mom one becomes a bit more considerate but i guess nowadays kids have become too materialistic for words. they maybe a good student but when it comes to making life easy for her mother, she is all tantrums and words. with her mother struggling to give the very best to her kids, education,teachers and any other thing that she and her brother may need; while her husband,who is mostly away from home. the kids have no consideration.

student,riddhi,reesha's brother,age:15,class:9


With a mother like their's who neglects her younger sister because her son needs her most he, can be least bothered about the thousands of rupees that his parents are spending on his education. from bunking tuition regularly, to misbehaving with mother and sister, he does it all. what kind of kids are these people?? clashes with parents are so normal but to misbehave with them is totally uncalled for.I'm aghast when i have to witness such things. being a good student and sharing a good rapport with others and ill treating folks at home is surely not a commendable thing to do.

student,sushmita,age:16,class:10

With boards around the corner she does what she pleases but studies.she gets all that most at her age don't get,even i never got when i was in class 10. she has a car at her disposal, an N70,rs 1000 pocket money. she spends more than rs 3000 on tuition, which she bunks and the teachers are not bothered.she is aware of how she is being exploited by her tuition teachers yet the girl sneaks away to have fun with friends, bunks classes regularly, dates a guy who two times her and uses her, yet she is with him; yet she is unperturbed. her phone gets seized so she buys herself a new phone on the sly. she spends money like water, and now stands on the brink, where a little effort can "pass" her or her continual disregard for boards can fail her. while its ok to have fun and freak out with friends, it is important to have good friends who will never mislead you. this is the time to study and not frolic around, no amount of pep talk and explaining can help the girl, who thinks friends are for life. whereas it is these friends who exploit her.


All the people mentioned above are basically good kids but their attitude to life really shocks me.how can one be so immature and insensitive towards parents who have given them all they could to ensure the best that life can offer. its not as if these kids are not explained but a trend in kids these days are, to hear that is being said and then forget all about it.just how can one guide these people to a better living when they don't want to help themselves. these people may just be an examples i used to convey my point, sad but true this is the true picture of the world.i just hope my kids,when i have them :P, are not like this i have no clue what i will do if they react this way with me.

19 comments:

mayz said...

its called d generation gap...didnt our parents tell us wat was wrong wid our generation...d same way we see d newer one...i dont blame d kids...they r too naive to understand...if anyone has to b blamed it shud b d parents n us...d ones who monitor em

Phoenix said...

no not generation gap. maybe we donot understand why our parents say so. but to be nice to our parents we donot need to work hard. its compassion, nowadays kids are more materialistic can you can ever imagine.they care less for the people who provide for them and more of what they want and how to get it out...


i wasnt ever like that. i didnt pester my parents to get me things and then went ahead and got t because they couldnt or wouldnt give it... im still me and parents are still them... the gap is the same...

but nowadays the mentality has changed...

Harshita said...

Well kids these days do amaze me...

I have cousins who are still in skool, they booze, have galfrez,make out, party hard,spend money like therez no tomorrow... and study when they wish to...

Another cousin is a 7 yr old kiddie and he cannot do with anything less than a PS2 on his bday...

It may be generation gap but then they are heading nowhere...to be true... I wonder if I will be able to raise my kids with same values as my parents raised me with.

These kids and their parents in particular need a reality check to be done before its too late.

Priya Joyce said...

haha wen I was in 8th I liked rahul but never had a courage to propose him..lol..but one of ma friends' sis proposed a boy in std 6..they had "I luv u"type conversations as early as tat...lol

man sahi mein aaj kal ke bacche..lol

Hemanth Potluri said...

well...have to think much abt it :)..people say i am still kid and cant think much may be i like to be like that then these kids u gave :P....and i like ben 10 i watch it sometimes :P..and tom and jerry too :)...

urs..hemu..

HOBO said...

Communication is a boon and a curse too.
Blame the communication.

Phoenix said...

@harshita

so true

btw whats PS2? play station 2?

Phoenix said...

@pj
omg as early as class 6?geez

Phoenix said...

@hemu

et tu hemu... :( tom and jerry si cool but ben 10?!!

Phoenix said...

@hobo
thats an escapist attitude...why blame communication for that matter why anyone at all...its our inability to mold the kids in a better way... not communications...

Ria said...

Well, thats something tht i think of too!! i wonder hw my kids will b...i hope they acknowledge my presence at least.

Antriksh Satyarthi said...

i actually understand your dilemma quite easily.
maybe its gotta do with the fact that i've always been the fav. person among all the young people i know and listened to their silly antics all my life or maybe its gotta do with me being the eldest brother among all the first cousins and hence unwittingly been trying to figure out pokemon or whatever today is 'the in-show' but i'm just as disturbed as you.

but as you said what can we do when they don't intend to listen??
i guess you have to become the one they can listen to or rather want to listen to.you really have to work and earn the power to make them listen,to all the blabber you might consider as good advice but which might be contrary actually, still you have to try to learn from all this and learn to be a good counsellor or rather be a good friend.
you mentioned the kids today too much importance to friendship so why not use that in your favour??? although the downside of which might be they start treating you more of a friend and you'll have to let go of the traditional 'big brother' kinda respect you might be striving for but you can achieve both if you can strike a balance.

kids have became more street smart than we ever used to be,they start doing things which we never dreamt of when we were in their shoes but i guess thats called a generation gap.they are smart,nice,intelligent kids who just have to face our situations much earlier.i guess the stark realities of life dawned on them and they are doing what they can to cope with it in their own ways but the way it worked for me was i stopped thinking of them as kids.treat them like you would an adult because try as you might they will never turn back to toddlers so just do the best in the situation and hope.

ohh and sorry wrote a lil tooo much for a first timer but old habits die hard and i never thought i'll go through such thought provoking stuff on the first go.
keep writing and lemme know if you got some pointers for dealing with kids.i can really experiment them [:p](and can use them...my younger sisters drive me up the walls)

HOBO said...

I am single with no kids.
ha ha haa

Keshi said...

I hv very similar nieces n nephews. Some act way over their age, and its shocking!

but its the generation gap...this is the Internet and Tech era..and children growing up in this era r totally different to how we used to be. Just like we were different to wut our parents were in their childhood.

I know, times r changing rapidly and for me, its even scary to think of hvn my own children. Cos I'd hv to slap em every few mins LOL!


Keshi.

Phoenix said...

@ria
we as future parents will have a tough time to raise kids at a time like this

Phoenix said...

@antariksh
i agree with you totally.. im a friend to all my students and their lies the grief! because despite being their friend im unable to do anything to help them out... if you think children as innocent kids,and develop ways to mold them do you think they will fall for it?trust me they dont!

Phoenix said...

@hobo
even i am... and it was very funny

Phoenix said...

@keshi
horrendous thoughts na? thinking of kids who turn out not even a fraction of what we were...

Aneesh said...

I think, their parents attention is less, when it needed the most. All are busy earning good sums thinking that'll secure everything whereas not all is secured. 'N I don't understand why kids need pocket money and gadgets? why do their parents allow it? showing off?