Saturday, December 20, 2008

Infidelity



I've never really understood infidelity. being the principalistic kind, it never made sense to me but then i have realized in due course of time, right or wrong for whatever reasons; infidelity is not that rare it happens every now and then, most relations suffer these phases when one of them cheats on the other.

what i want to ask is when a person cheats on his/her spouse doesn't one weigh the consequences? i mean a marriage of many years can break, a relationship can fall apart, if there are kids they get affected and what about the whole world who jeers, laughs and looks on, being specially harsh on the one who was being cheated on?

Suppose the person who had cheated on his/her spouse, is being confronted by the issue? how should that person react, according to you? should the person confess and ask for forgiveness or should the person just avoid the whole issue hoping it will die down?

If your friends are faced with this problem, [where you are the third party and you are indirectly involved in this issue and will suffer the consequences too] You suspect one who is closer to you, is cheating your another friend [his wife] you know the fate of children are at stake, even if they are old enough now they are bound to be affected. and your friends wife is unwilling to forgive and forget and your friend refuses to admit to the whole affair even if there are enough witnesses. the relationship seems to be heading to an end.what do you do? you dint want the relationship to break, nor do you want the kids suffer, you somehow are in a denial of your friends infidelity and neither can you live with the guilt on your conscience that despite he being your friend he was wrong yet he lied to get away with the crime he has committed.

what would you react to this given situation??

*this bears no resemblance to me or anyone related to me.*

this is an idea i got while watching some abstract movie... would really love your feedback's in this given situation...

16 comments:

mayz said...

i think it happens in every relationship...mayb not to d pt of infidelity but certainly thr r thots abt a third person from both the partners...i think its natural human tendency...

lukkydivz said...

i have been in the third place..
but i dont wanna discuss it here :P

Harshita said...

Well, if I am a third person and if my friend asks me... I wud ask him/her to move on..which is difficult...but then there is no point staying with someone who strays...

Everyone deserves their share of life... and a person who is being cheated deserves his/her life too.

No point hanging on to that life, coz there is just one go at life and we have to live it to the fullest... so better be alone than be with someone whoz cheated on u :)

Damn! I am a hot-blooded Punjabi talking...haha

Hey! I am not mean... I am just an idiot ;)

yamini meduri said...

i think i dont have any idea about such situation....i dint know about this world till date.....

it is the first time that i read this word...so i cant tell u anything....but that it may be a good post....actually i didnt understand the topic properly except that it deals with the relationship after mariage...!!!!

Pranav Kumar V said...

I say, its a crime even to THINK of it!! You're degrading your own self whenever you cheat and taking down a whole lot more people with you. Reality.

When confronted, the person should accept it and try and bring about a difference thereon. Of course, life'll never be the same again, but you'd at least die trying... :|

OMG!! Did I sound serious over there?? Hope not!! Go Going Gone...

See you when I see you... :)

ANWESA said...

i really believe dat no 1 has any right 2 use another human being.so,4 me,it wud b "call it quits",the world can take care of itself.this applies 2 men n women alike.

divinediu said...

it doesnt happen in
EVERY relationship like mayz said.

And the lady probably knows.

Women have killer instincts.

Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Infidelity is wrong. There can be no mistake bigger than cheating.

Loyalty is what a relationship demands along with love.

Kisses.

The Lover said...

I think it does happen in every relationship though the degree varies. Sometimes one tends to act on the thoughts, sometimes one doesn't. But emotional infidelity does happen.

Priya Joyce said...

well if it happens to my buddy and I am the third person then I wud surely exert on confession...as speaking truth is always the best..and the wife/hubby who is being cheated will surely forgive as he/she loves the person who is cheating...and love forgives the biggest of the mistakes...

LifeSmiles:) said...

To forgive a person is very very difficult..Unconsciously in your mind there will always be a trace of those thought....And than fights etc, which will any how going to affect children, so better to be apart. Specially in this situation, That Gal/Guy is not even ready to admit that he/she is wrong.

Jagjit said...

Talk is the best solution according to me. Something I read few days back on infidelity is here:

http://wind-rambling.blogspot.com/2008/12/responsibilities-of-fourth-estate.html

Nice blog. Maybe I'll steal the tag below this post :)

deluded said...

oh man.

me?

I think I'll just get the two of them drunk.......and leave them locked up in a room or something

that way, they'll just kiss and make up

Trinaa said...

d whole idea sucks. period.

Akshat said...

The whole concept is gross...and heartbreaking...but still inevitable....human nature forbids infidelity to end...self control is what is needed only the strong ones can control themselves!!!

It is the worst....and I haven't had to bear with any kind of infidelity yet...and hopefully wouldn't have to!!

Awesome post as always...which movie is it inspired from???...Curious!!

Ria said...

hey u knw my take on infidelity, so do i really need to answer this!? Infidelity has no reason.....and any kind of cheating is simply unpardonable. Thts my simple take on it.