Sunday, April 12, 2009

Social Menace 5

I have been noticing a few things lately about people and their lack of emotions in a public sphere. i have written posts previously critiquing the society and just how people move about within social framework. but however what i encountered recently left me aghast and wondering if people at all have humanity left?

1st incident- i was traveling with my niece, we had had a long journey and we were returning from meeting one of my friends who stay in the outskirts of the city. by the time we were returning, my niece was totally fatigued ready to drop, and she complained of headache; to which i didn't pay attention as my main aim was to get her home before she actually fell sick. during the bus ride she turned pale and complained of feeling pukish, at this time i finally decided to get off with her and take her in a cab or something. as i was about to get her off the bus, she almost puked,almost.but with her hand firmly on her mouth, we got off as Samik stayed back.and what i heard from Samik about what he went through after we got off was alarming. apparently the passengers were almost up in blows because my niece while getting off the bus in a rush tripped over a lady's Saree and that dirtied her Saree. my god! as if my niece did that on purpose and she was actually doing all present a Cavour by not puking there and then on the bus, instead she waited patiently to puke once we got off. poor Samik got into a brawl of sorts which had threatened to turn nasty..damn don't people feel anymore? after all a child was sick and it wasn't as if she did that on purpose!! grrr! :X

Incident 2- I'm learning driving these days, Samik was kept in the dark about it. so today when his new car arrived i surprised him by driving a little bit, and while he was instructing me to take a turn and then get the car to halt, and i believe i did so very well but the man standing round the corner was an old man, who fumed and yelled at us for nothing, it wasn't as if i was about to hit him or anything.gawd!! i apologized to the man profusely because i thought i scared him and he turned around and started abusing me...i mean if i was at fault i apologized for it right? and even then instead of understanding, and specially disregarding the fact that I'm a girl, the man started abusing me. sheesh! i wonder if people have lost their etiquette's or the fact there is something called humanism.

Really these two incidents have made me wonder have people nowadays lost their manners or their humanity? have they stopped feeling for others? have we become so immune to the plight or problems of others??

48 comments:

americanising desi said...

people are way off my limits in real.
maybe that is why i have quit social life and limited it!
grrr!
people make life so miserable!

Hopeless Romantic said...

I agree completely!! rem Munnabhai MBBS where sunil dutt gets hold of the thief on the railway station and then told him..should i hand over u to the public...they all r pissed from Petty politics to loosing cricket matches..its just a similar story..the tolerance n humanism levels r going down considerably...n i really cnt feel a soln apart from getting myself isolated..sigh !!

bondgal_rulz said...

Wtf ?

Un auntie ko surf excel ka pouch de dena. But after puking on it. :D

ANWESA said...

ppl hav got immune..i hope they get sensitized..Amen!

the pink orchid said...

oh damn! how inhuman! basic humanism.. some basic etiquettes.. it made me feel sick!

Jinxed Pixie said...

there are many such people out there, believe me..
but just when i begin believing that there are no 'good samaritans', i am proved wrong..

yamini meduri said...

very true Phoenix..!!! almost 99% are this way. they dont care about what we feel. it happened to me too..!!!

i always had respect to the elderly and always gave seat to the senior citizens who board the bus if they dont find one. but once i was taking the lappy into my hand to juss get up when the man started yeeling at me. i dint care first but then he started saying that todays girls have no respect to the elders. i heard to him for a while but then kept quiet. later after some time, another girl in the bus had some problem with a boy while standin and this man supported the boy where actually the prob was with him....i couldnot stop my anger and then asked the elder man politely; "Sir dont you have any daughter?' he said he does. then i asked again;"Will you say the same if she is the girl facing the problem?"
he then shut his mouth and got down in the next stop when actually he has to go to somewhere else.

i still remember the incident thought it occured some years back.

people are really turing very rude..!!!

yamini meduri said...

by the way...hows Roshini??? is she fine???

hope everything is going fine with three of you..!!!

Sam said...

sad state of affairs really!! funnily, one encounters more cheerful people here.

яノςんム said...

As i said, wen a lady is driving, ppl have a notion tht they cant drive.

and sorry to know about roshni. is she okay now??

Diya said...

yeah the 1st incident does prove people`s loss of basic humanity but of the second I disagree with your notion of being a girl and not a boy, I think that should not have been the issue but the man yelling unjustly :)
Neways, gr8 observation :)

Dhanya said...

I know... some people are so bloody heartless! You feel like whacking them there and then or shake em up a lil to get their feelings all in place....

Hemanth Potluri said...

some people are insane in some places..but society is changing a lot..it is making all sort bad things to others..and effecting others..damn i wish everything was calm and quite.


urs..hemu..

Arv said...

wonders what good does all the human advancements come to when all the love is fading????

hope your cousin feels better now...

take care... have a nice day.. cheers...

Ria said...

i dunno why hv ppl become stupid and irrational these days, extremely selfish too coz they dont feel for others any more!!

Priya Joyce said...

Gosh!! that was really bad huh!
I do not know what to say to it coz..I hav stopped expecting anything from the outsiders..it kindaa doesn't affect me now...

huh!

how's ur niece now??

comfortably numb said...

n they say v live a city where warmth and love are given free of cost:(
in fact, its the case all over!!!

Mayz said...

ohhhh u shud then neva talk to me when m stuck in a traffic jam...i lose all my calm

Luscious Sealed Lips said...

It is not about the etiquette. People have become so frustrated in their lives that it all seems to come out on strangers on the road.

Kisses.

Amrita~Ams said...

grrrrrrrrr..

Chronicwriter said...

these are times where you can smile at them and show ur love to them and not get angry... we can surely do that if we tune our emotional mind accordingly

www.chronicwriter.com

Aditi..............:) said...

I know how it feels so confront situations like that, the best you can do is fill them in....remind them what they are forgetting!!
Give them a nice good speech they will remember all the time!! :)

Dream'R said...

i know wat u mean yaar...seems like everyone's forgotten ki we live in a society nowadays...everyone has turned really selfish and self obsessed...

U know its high time people started taking good long looks at themselves..i dont see y u bother apologizing anymore..therz not that much of humanity left yaar...

And that poor lil gal...the poor dear...hmmm...wats this world coming to!!

Arnab Majumdar said...

I know how it feels when you encounter something of that sort, but then again, I'll say that not everyone is like that. Sometimes, it's just your bad luck to run into schmucks like these, but there are still a few good people in the world.

Don't lose hope re :) Cheers...

Phoenix said...

@seher

im a lot like u i shun social life.. but at times one cant help but move around such people.. after as they say.. man is a social animal :)

Phoenix said...

@amit
isolation is what i need too!!

Phoenix said...

@bondgurl_rulz

aaa thats my thought exactly!! :) heheh how i wish my niece had done it!!

Phoenix said...

@anwesa

yeah absolutely.. i hope some good will prevails on such jerks!!

Phoenix said...

@kajal

i wonder if these people were ever taught manners!!

Phoenix said...

@punya

i sure hope there are some good samaritans at least or humanity will be doomed!

Phoenix said...

@yams

my god!! u did the right thing yams.. and speaking up is always good i had my share of road incidents such as these./.. im glad u stood up for what you felt was right! kudos girl!

and ya roshni is fine.. she was just feeling a lot fatigued because we had a tough journey etc.. this happened quite a few days earlier :) but thanks for asking

Phoenix said...

@sam da

absolutely

Phoenix said...

@richa

i so second you.. i think its got something to do with male chauvinism when they see lady drivers....

Phoenix said...

@diya

you are right.. its not a gender issue at all.. but we are also taught that one must not ABUSE a girl its just gross... yelling unjustly is however as bad as that :)

im linking you..

Phoenix said...

@dhanya

oo i wanted to whack them and much more :D

Phoenix said...

@hemz

aww i wish the same too :)

Phoenix said...

@arv

:D

they its not my cousin but my niece :)

Phoenix said...

@ria
so true yaa :(

Phoenix said...

@PJ
basically im immune too but at times u cant help but exclaim!

Phoenix said...

@comfortably numb

yea thats what appalled me.. in kolkata where we are known for our hospitality this is the actually state of the people! damn!

Phoenix said...

@mayank

tut tut we have spoken when you were stuck in a jam.. at least to me.. you were ur usual charming self :)

Phoenix said...

@Luscious Sealed Lips

yeah frustrated men!

Phoenix said...

@amrita

grrr right back atcha!! :D

Phoenix said...

@chris

then there is a lot of tuning to do all around.. you volunteering?? :P :D

Phoenix said...

@aditi

i wish i could yaar.. but backchatting to elders is hardly the values we have imbibed from our elders

Phoenix said...

@amith

i wish i wouldnt have apologized too but then on a second thought... if they are mean and manner less i am not.. like i said we have better values than them... :)

Phoenix said...

@arnab

im big on hope.. and if im around then i know there are other good people around too.. im sure! :D :P

Harshita said...

:) hota hain hota haian