Monday, May 18, 2009

Naked Thoughts


I have been plagued by this thought and i just cant help but ask you guys something... 

Does being in a relationship make it mandatory for a
 girl to comply to the advances of her guy,
even if she doesnt not want it, or is not in a mood for it?

Does the girl have a right/ choice to refuse the guy??

And if the guy forces himself on the girl 
[that is if she doesnt want it and he goes ahead]
can a girl term it as molestation?

Now a little personal question.. its ok if you choose not to answer but if you can i will really be obliged.
Is feelings important in an intimate situation? 
or its ok if he/she has feelings.. if they dont then just go ahead and enjoy the moment


Disclaimer: the author does not wish to generalize.. she is just curious... :)

27 comments:

яノςんム said...

first yaay!!

яノςんム said...

its not about the guy, if any one of the both tries to force him/herself on the other one, i wud term it as molestation.

and about the feeling thing, i say, my personal choice is, yes feelings do have to be in for the physical thing..
even biologically, if the girl isnt emotionally attached, she isnt comfortable..

Karthik Murali said...

well u want it from a guy.. here goes.

i think u could tell him to his face , that u not ready or atleast for that moment..

and lemme tell u one small frank insight
(Dont mistake me , and i dont mean anyone in particular) -
even when u are not ready and jus give urself completely to ur ready , there will be two scenarios that will happen

He will actually think of the girl in question as more of a "desperate" girl, and i'm using a comparitively decent word here,despite the fact that the guy initiated it.

second scenario is where, since the girl is not interested , she would turn out to be a big bore for him , and he mite even start looking for other ppl..trust me,it happens.

a physical relationship must happen when both are ready, and at the right moment , with the right heat and intense environment.

AD said...

Is feelings important in an intimate situation?

YES.
without feeling it is whoreship ...
sorry but the facts are brutal and if the guy imposes his decision that is rape!

couldnt deal with this in a hushed manner!

Sumit said...

Its not mandatory at all. Either partner has the right to refuse. And making advances depends upon the circumstances, and what either partner terms as advances!! Buy, yeah, if one refuses the other should respect n refrain.

regarding feelings n intimacy. hell yeah, the two together is a heady cocktail... but then, there are folks who do not necessarily mix them, its their choice. as long there is repsect between the two, things will happen at the right n right place :)

cheers

The Pink Orchid said...

I am in total agreement with what Karthik and Seher above said...

Going ahead with it without emotions is gonna leave the girl emotionally hurt, which she might not realise immediately.. but in the long run she will..

if the girl is not ready for it she has to say it.. if the guys loves her he has to understand her.. intimacy has to be mutual, without both of their emotions it's pointless, it is a sacrifice, it is a mess!

this is something i could go on and on about..

ANWESA said...

yes,any advances made widout d consent of d partner is termed as molestation(molestation is the mildest word here).
anything done widout feelings is certainly "animal-like" or even worse.

Mahesh Sindbandge said...

I am just hoping it's not about you and him.

See it happens..one or the other time, guy/gal might force the other with their thoughts for their needs/wants.

Either ways it is molestation.

But i feel, instead of taking a decision, victim should think twice before deciding anything. I used a word victim cuz i felt it was appropriate as for the situation as its a common problem..

I know that very thought of the opposite sex being forcible might bring all the negative thoughts, so the person's character should also be taken into account...

I felt so....further clarification can be asked for..:)

Well feelings are always important in any situation...i would say it actually depends on the situation..
It might be the case, that its ur perspective to consider it more intimate that is actually is...So work on it to decide.. :)

All the best..:)

P.S: i am very innocent guy...:P don't know how did my approach sounded,.....:)

muthu said...

they dont call sex as making love for nothing. It s called so because love is the only thing that adds spice to intimacy....

and we arent living in the dark ages when men force women to their wills, people can refuse sex when they arent feeling like it.

and hey there is no big a diff between raping a girl and forcing ur partner....

the second one is even more disgustin... you are ready to willfully hurt your own partner that too sexually for your own shagging.... thats pretty sick i say....

you should try out my 55 fiction on the topic...


http://average-everyday.blogspot.com/2009/04/prostitute-55-fiction.html

Pesto Sauce said...

It's always better to talk these things out...

If you are convinced that its right to hit the shack; then go ahead, don't chicken out; else wait..

Also be clear as to how badly you or he wants it

PULKIT said...

its all about understanding one's needs and wants...
very well expressed!

following ur blog !!

:)

regards
PULKIT
(http://19goes20.blogspot.com)

The Geekie said...

irrrr...why so serious ??

woh karo jo apna dil bole :)

cheersss

Dhanya said...

Lovely template, first of all :)

I do believe that feelings are truly important for intimate relationships! Don't know how people can go for it otherwise. I know people do that nowadays... but that just sounds sick :(

Jinxed Pixie said...

obviously, the girl too must have a say..if the guy doesn't respect her feelings, then he's a jerk. simple.

Quest said...

The Quest is feelingless :D ;)

Quest

Keshi said...

Being in a r'ship doesnt mean u r meant to do whatever the other person wants to do. Love isnt an Obligation.

Keshi.

Pallav said...

First thing.. template is good..
see there shld be ease n comfort for both sides...
if one wants n other dont then, then no compulsion...

Cheers
Pallav

Harshita said...

Well, you know my answer... any of the parties forcing themselves is MOLESTATION...

Everyone has a right to their will and if the gal does not want to give in to the advances that's completely her choice and the guy shud respect that AND Viceversa applies too.

For me, feelings are imptt for sure... I think they drive you to the next step... :)

Nice post...and a change frm the mundane too.

yamini meduri said...

hope your questions are answered already..!!!

as for me..i think in a relationship each others feelings and thoughts must be considered and respected which rarely happens with girls...!!!

ki said...

1. Anybody forcing themselves on someone else = molestation or rape.

2. No, feelings aren't very important. Why do you think there are one night stands?!

Chronicwriter said...

if she doesnt comply, he should stop making any more advancements...

if she stops him for ages, then there should be something wrong..


they should both sit and talk about this..

if she fails to explain things to him, he should move on in life...

flings! -the alternate option

chriz

Netika Lumb said...

Nope.. It's important that the feelings remain there Coz that is the main idea of getting intimate. I don't mean to say that there needs to be a push or a force or a justification behind, but yes, if you can't feel the moment no point at all.

Besides, the guy should not be allowed to throw himself on you. I won't say it can be termed molestation coz one, it is too strong a word and two, he thinks sooner or later you too will fall into the temptation. Majorly it depends on the depth of the relationship.

Aw.S.M said...

Molestation is a strong work raka....i guess what happens is the guy aint sure if the gal is playing hard to get or she actually aint interested...u female folk r complicated remember!!

But then again..feelings are very important...whats the point in simply gong throught the motions..?.. You gotta feel it else no pt in it.

Oh and with regards to the first question..NO..i guess being in a relationship means you should be able to adjust to one another..but that doesnt mean having to do something you dont want to do...

Guess that covers everything..;-)

and do generalize..hehe

luv
amith

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Mayz said...

oh yes without doubt that is molestation...infact there is no excuse...its not like d girl is d guys personal property

Arv said...

to me, one must never do what one doesnt feel comfortable about...

Ria said...

It has to be a mutual feeling!! None of the partners shud force themselves on the other. And ofcourse feelings r important. Thats wht matters the most!